Cherie
2010-11-02

Massaage on TV

Last night I watched an episode of “The Good Wife.” The story line was about the process the law firm went through in determining whether they would represent a massage therapist who wanted to sue a Nobel Peace Prize winner for sexual assault. Does this sound at all familiar? I am sure the episode was inspired by the claim against Al Gore.

I was very curious as to how the show’s writers would portray the therapist and the situation. Surprisingly, I think they did a fairly good job. Of course, this is a television show and not a documentary….

I wrote an article on this topic titled, “When a Client Crosses the Line” that was published in the September 2010 issue of Massage Today. In researching the article, some of the references had conflicting accounts and I couldn’t understand why she just didn’t leave. I talked with a psychotherapist who deals with trauma and she said that “freezing” up or becoming passive is a very common reaction with people who have had a history of abuse. She was not at all surprised that the therapist didn’t have the courage to walk away?particularly since the alleged perpetrator was such a prominent political figure.

The TV show also addressed that psychological phenomenon and I give them kudos for that. In addition, the character on the show talked about how she was afraid of losing her seniority as a VIP therapist. I’m curious as to how many therapists put up with inappropriate behavior from clients (those that come right up to, but don’t cross the line). I think this needs to be brought into the light if there is to be any hope of inspiring hotel/spa directors to be more concerned about protecting their therapists.

Originally published in the WIBB.

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2 comments

# Cherie Sohnen-Moe on 2010-12-17 at 01:15
Hi Carla. Good for you for standing your ground. I hope your friend finally understood the impact of his "joke."
# carla Email on 2010-12-16 at 21:46
I didn't see the TV episode, but i agreee that not only inappropriate behavior but also inappropriate comments and other sexual inuendo needs to be addressed whenever needed. i am afraid i angered a male friend who made a suggestive joking comment on my facebook page recently in reference to an announcement of a class event at my massage office. i had to tell him that he was not appropriate to comment about massage and sex in that way. He is a casual friend who i met many years before i became a therapist and he didn't understand why i couldn't just "take a joke"...i had to finally explain to him in a more private email why i had to lay down the line in the more public forum of the facebook page even though i knew he thought he was just joking with me, just as i have to lay down the rules in the office. Theraputic Massage is NOT about sexual release. period.